For most of my adult life, I’ve really struggled with November. It’s cold, dark, rainy and generally unpleasant. There are no major holidays or festivals and nothing to look forward to. It’s an endurance test on the way to December – which is still cold and dark, but the snow which is usually on the ground helps to brighten things up, there are Christmas lights everywhere and of course, there is Christmas to look forward to.
But to get there you have to get through November.
I’m not alone in this sentiment – as I was flipping through Instagram this morning, I noticed there are a lot of people with the same opinion. So I’m going to try something different. This year, I’m reframing November.
Reframing is a term I’ve heard a few times recently – typically in business literature to mean looking at a problem from a different point of view; to see how you can turn that problem into an opportunity. If you want more detail on what I’m talking about, Tara Swiger has a great podcast that you can hear here.
Shortly after I heard this podcast, I listened to Truly Myrtle talking about November. Her opinion is totally different than mine for a variety of reasons. She is planning a month of spoiling herself and encouraging listeners to do the same. Frankly, it sounded like a lovely idea.
So I’m going to put these two ideas together. Rather than treat November as an endurance test, I’m going to reframe it and treat it as ‘me’ time. A whole month for me. This is made much easier because my partner is away for the first two weeks and my son is old enough that so long as there is food on the table each night, he doesn’t really care what I do. So the focus is on the little things I can do to help buoy my spirits and stay happy. Self-care of body, mind and spirit.
This isn’t about ‘drink 8 glasses of water a day’ or ‘limit alcohol’ though they are both undeniably good things to do for ourselves. I’m thinking more along the lines of re-establish a journaling practice, getting into a routine with yoga. Permitting time to sit and do nothing – and not feel guilty about it. Planning and doing some prep work for meals on days when I work from home so the days when I’m in the office much of the work for dinner is already done. That kind of stuff. I also have a goal to have all my Christmas shopping done by the end of November to alleviate that pressure in December. Since I do a lot of shopping online or in the little towns outside Ottawa, this is actually a do-able thing.
I’ll be posting shorter updates through November to let you know how this is going. If you have any ideas to share about this, I’d love to hear from you.